You say things like :
… I’m not happy
… People just don’t get me and my situation, if they were in my shoes…
… It’s easier said than done
… Why can’t things just be simpler?
… How did I even get myself in this position… am I suppose to be here?
… Why can’t they just listen to me?
… Do I even know what am I doing?
… I’m not qualified for this position
… I’m not strong or whole enough
… I can’t possibly do this
… What they said was true, I should have listened
… I thought things would be different, now what?
… Why can’t I just get things easier / how so and so has it?
Comparison is the thief of joy
We can think/tell and ask ourselves, others, and God these negative things forgetting that God is in control and is working for the good of you as long as you lose yourself to Him and not what’s going on around you. The mind is indeed a battlefield and it can feel like a war going on within you because there is. You’re trying to run your life and not allow God to have his way. You’re trying to make sense of things that maybe you’re not ready to understand at your current level. When you have these thoughts and emotional rollercoaster let us become traceable ( asking ourselves why deeply and honestly) and Self aware.
Healthy thoughts and patterns lead to a healthy and more enjoyable life
Yes, it’s hard I know and I go through it too but today when I read the Bible this verse stood out to me and sook me:
17 “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. 20 These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”- Matthew 15:17-20
Whats in your heart is what you will go into your mind and come out of your mouth, and that is what defiles you. Have you ever felt further away from God than you used to, like you’re a shell of yourself and not sure how to get back to the happiness, joy, and closeness you felt before? I have! The crazy thing is that it shows in your day to day activities and you’ll worry yourself and those around you about your wellbeing. All you have to do it take a breath, talk to God, tell him the honest truth about how you feel about yourself, circumstance, or whatever else you’re going through. No, your situation will not automatically change and these feelings won’t just disappear but the more you talk to him about it and not just others, a solution, a path, comforting presence, a door will be opened to you eventually. It’s all in our mindset and the way we talk, you can change situations with your tongue. Use your tongue wisely, even when things may not be going well speak as if it so.
Use the words of the living God to frame your world !
When you go around complaining all the time and discussing the bad stuff, only seeing the negative then you’ll only experience the negative. I don’t know about you but I tend to feel uneasy after I complain about life challenges to someone or talk down to myself. It doesn’t bring joy or fill whatever void you have, only God can fill it. Continue to seek his face, read his word, and follow the path he’s set for you, things will turn up!
Don’t speak negatively about your situations or others
Cheer up and Happy yourself in the Lord!
Sincerely with love and joy,
xoxo Nai
I may have gone off on a tangent with this post but I pray that it helps someone because it’s helping me.